Before we began our study in Job 2:9, we discussed the organized spiritual growth chart the Lord gave us in 2 Peter 1:5: And beside this, giving all diligence, add to your faith virtue; and to virtue knowledge; Job made the choice to add virtue (choosing to do right regardless of circumstance) to his faith which gave him the strength to have God’s wisdom amidst his pain. It was virtue that gave Job wisdom as he responded to his wife when she was in despair and told him to curse God and die.
We are given the same ability, through the power of the Holy Spirit; to endure the most horrific earthly pain and hardships that Job was given. It must be noted that while Job had the virtue to not curse God, he still suffered and lamented and expressed this pain and heartache to those who were in his presence. Having virtue does not mean to be emotionless in our struggles – and this is very important for us to understand as we dissect the practical applications of spiritual survival during earthly heartaches.
In verse 2:9-10 we hear the words of despair from Job’s wife. Before we judge these seemingly harsh words we take a moment to remember that she also has lost all her children, most of her personal wealth, and now she is staring at her husband who is covered with painful boils and in distressing pain. Proverbs 24:10 comes to mind (If thou faint in the day of adversity, thy strength is small.) as I consider how Job endures such pain but she does not. Could it have been that she did not worship and sacrifice, as Job did, when times were well? It is not her pain that is in question, for that is obvious; it is the contrast between her endurance to stay focused on God and Job’s endurance to stay focused on God. We can certainly understand, albeit a harsh statement, her telling her husband that death would be better – but telling her husband to curse God because of this earthly pain leaves us wondering what she was lacking in her fellowship with God.
Jobs response to her in verse 2:10 allows me to focus on the practical application of maintaining virtue through earthly pain. He tells her that she is speaking as foolish women speak and he also shares with us how he stayed in remembrance that all the good things he ever had were from God and not from anything he did. This statement instilled in me the importance of maintaining who the true supplier and owner of everything I have is – which will help us endure should God decide to take everything away. It is also important to focus on the fact that Job did not call his wife foolish, but said she was speaking as one of the foolish women speaks. We will assume that her demonstration of pain and discouraging words to Job about God were not normal for her.
Why was his wife spared when the rest of the family was killed? It is very possible that Satan used her weakness as a foothold to cause Job even more pain. In the previous chapter we discussed how Satan used the wickedness and weakness of man to assist him in his plan to destroy Job’s faith – this could have been another extension of his awful plan. It definitely made me reflect on my weaknesses and make a more sincere effort to strengthen these fleshly weaknesses with His Word so I am not used in any evil plan of the devils. When someone is experiencing pain or hardship, does my response cause even more suffering or sorrow for them? Throughout the next 30 chapters we are going to learn how improper words coming from those close to Job enhanced his pain instead of encouraging him to endure through his pain.
The most fascinating application of Job’s choosing to add virtue to his faith was in our understanding how he wisely chose his words in response to his wife. Despite his broken heart, his loss of wealth, and now intense physical pain, Job did not lose control and yell unkind words at his wife – even as she was advising him to curse God. This was a beautiful conviction to me as even as soon as last week, I wanted to use the excuse of my situation as I responded to someone untoward. God gives us this example in Job to empower us, in Him, without us using circumstantial excuses. It is also a call to our spiritual souls to remind us that we will not endure the race before us if we are living, in any way, for earthly things. When we are truly living for God – in every aspect of our life, earthly goods, people, abuse, suffering, etc. will not cause us to be depressed to the point that we will question the presence of our almighty God. Job understood that God does not owe us good; if He chooses to give us anything, we should accept it with trust – even if what He gives us is adversity.
The end of verse 2:10 reminds us again that in all this, Job did not sin in all that he said. This is important for us to remember as some will say these calamities occurred because of some negative confession he made, supposedly recorded in Job 1:5 and in Job 3:25.
Many people think that believing in God protects them from earthly troubles so when calamity strikes they question the goodness and justness of God. The message of Job reminds us that just because bad things happen, our Father is ever aware and ever present. Faith in God does not guarantee personal prosperity as the world would define prosperity. In contrast, a lack of faith does not guarantee troubles in this life either. It might just be that God has it established this way so none of us follow Him in faith just to get rich!
We are introduced to three of Job’s dear friends in verses 2:11-13. Eliphaz, Bildad, and Zophar heard of Job’s incomprehensible pain and traveled from afar to be with their friend. These three friends were known for their wisdom; however, in relation to this story, their wisdom was shown to be narrow minded and incomplete. We must be so careful not to get complacent in what we think we know and we need to continually beg the Lord to give us wisdom with each new circumstance in our life. Just like we cannot live on yesterday’s spirituality, we also cannot live on yesterday’s wisdom. This can only be truly understood if we sincerely comprehend the fact that our natural flesh never gets righteous – so we must constantly suppress it by allowing the Holy Spirit to control our thoughts and minds. One of the things we should be careful of, especially the longer we walk with the Lord, is that we don’t become lofty or high-minded. If we are sincerely following God, our attitude should reflect more humility, tenderness and a sweeter spirit.
Even though we will find that these men erred in their judgment, they were considered good friends with their honorable intentions. Their intended goal was good and noble as they came to be with Job to share in his sorrow and their initial desire was to bring the sweet relief that friendship can bring. As they were approaching Job from a distance away, they lifted their eyes and could not believe that their friend was unrecognizable. They themselves mourned, even before they found themselves in Job’s presence, by tearing at their robes and sprinkling dust on their heads.
Upon their arrival, in their honorable fashion, they sat with Job on the ground for seven days and seven nights never saying a word. This, in itself, shows their love for Job and the fact that they did have good intentions. This was a wonderful display of comfort and they offered no words – just their compassionate presence. This time frame of seven nights and days was the usual time for mourning the dead (also see Genesis 50:10 and 1 Samuel 31:13) and we end this chapter with this picture of Job and his friends seated in a woeful silence.
We also finish this chapter understanding that, sometimes, the truest form of compassion does not come from our words, but from our loving silence when someone’s pain is so deep. Too many times we find ourselves, as we will soon learn, talking more than we need to which can cause a person much more pain than necessary. May we all learn to be slow to speak and to defer to each other, especially in moments of crisis.

